True self-worth comes from within... from 3 sources.

By Aditya Shukla, Psychologist

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If you lose your appearance,  job, possessions, & achievements from your self-worth, what remains?

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Self-worth should come from within, so it doesn't go during a crisis.

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Reflexive consciousness

If your thoughts are someone else's, you are borrowing someone else's self-worth.

Focus: How you think about yourself.

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What you think is influenced by others' inputs, but you get to reform those thoughts. Your thoughts about yourself become self-worth.

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Interpersonal relationships

If your behavior is solely based on others' needs, they control your self-worth.

Focus: The role you play in other's lives.

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Relationships are necessary for survival, but you don't have to prioritize a relationship over yourself. Your personal priorities becomes self-worth.

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Executive functions

If someone else makes decisions for you, they own your self-worth. This is when you lose control of yourself.

Focus: Who guides your behavior and perception.

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You can't always make decisions for yourself, but you can try to make choices, change them, and ask for advice whenever you want to. Your decisions become self-worth

The source of self-worth

Outside you

Inside you

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Looks, achievements, job, success, possessions

Your decisions, your thoughts, your beliefs about yourself