Here's how you find trust and start making friends as an adult

By Aditya Shukla, Author at Cognition Today

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You need psychological comfort and create a safe space... here's how to find it.

Familiarity: Be in each other's presence. More you see each other, more you start liking each other. (Mere exposure effect)

Reciprocity: Do favors and ask for favors. People conclude they like each other when they do favors. Doing favors indicates the absence of threat. (Ben Franklin effect)

Knowledge: People fear the unknown, so ensure others have some knowledge about you and you learn something about them. (Uncertainty aversion)

This will get you

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Action plan

Exchange likes on social media Ask for small favors Visit the same places Exchange knowledge about hobbies Greet each other frequently

Thank you for reading

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Here's how you find trust and start making friends as an adult

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You need psychological comfort and create a safe space... here's how to find it.

Familiarity: Be in each other's presence. More you see each other, more you start liking each other. (Mere exposure effect)

Reciprocity: Do favors and ask for favors. People conclude they like each other when they do favors. Doing favors indicates the absence of threat. (Ben Franklin effect)

Knowledge: People fear the unknown, so ensure others have some knowledge about you and you learn something about them. (Uncertainty aversion)

This will get you

Comfort

Confidence

Appreciation

Action plan

Thank you for reading

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