By Aditya Shukla, Psychologist and founder (Cognition Today)
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People sometimes believe their feelings about something or someone accurately describe reality. This is an error in cognition called "Emotional Reasoning"
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Assessing reality requires a lot of mental work. But feelings are primitive and immediate. So people use "feelings" as a quick reference to interpret reality.
We have limited thinking resources, so we default to using emotions because they are easy and already in process.
Emotions are created to motivate a behavior like running away, seeking safety, approaching someone with safety, etc., so emotions trigger behaviors before we get to analyze.
Emotions create sensations all over the brain and body, so it literally feels "real" while cognition doesn't feel as real when we are emotional.
So we don't start a conflict for no reason.
So we diffuse a relationship conflict quickly.
So we arrive at good decisions, typically after the emotions have passed.